In this episode, I share my deeply personal reflections on what it means to lay down my life in alignment with Christ, but without feeling lesser for it. Growing up in an enmeshed family system with rigid expectations of selflessness, ingrained through my Catholic upbringing, I faced challenges in understanding…
In this video I discuss four distinct and deepening layers of knowing ourselves - Intellectual, Experiential, Affective and Unitive. As interior pilgrims we need to understand why self-knowledge needs to go beyond knowing about ourselves to learning how to attune to our inner selves and knowing how to lead ourselves…
Ever felt paralyzed when trying to make a decision? You're not alone. In this episode of the Becoming Me Podcase, we explore the fear of acknowledging our emotions and how it impacts our ability to discern God's will. Our emotions are the raw data for discernment. But what if acknowledging…
Laws and commands, when rooted in love, resonate from within. When we receive them with open hearts, we realize they are not impositions from external forces but echoes of our own inner wisdom. Do we feel the gentle nudging of love within, guiding us towards forgiveness and compassion? Or do…
The path to integration isn't paved with predetermined outcomes or picture-perfect endings. It's a journey of growth, a process of becoming, guided by our faith and commitment. We may find ourselves captivated by the allure of heroic virtues or the fantasy of perfect love and forgiveness. But let's pause and…
Personalism teaches us that each of us is precious, deserving of love, respect, and honor. It reminds us that our interactions should be guided by love and compassion, just as St. John Paul II emphasized. On the flipside, with Individualism, could our struggles with excessive individualism stem from a deeper…
There's a common belief that self-care falls into two categories: "healthy" and "unhealthy." The former involves discipline and long-term commitment, while the latter is seen as frivolous and indulgent. But here's the thing: making rigid distinctions between these forms of self-care isn't as helpful as we might think. From an…
It's crucial not to downplay the reality of harmful relationships. We're called to love our enemies, yes, but that doesn't mean ignoring the toxicity. Recognize that love in such relationships looks vastly different from healthy ones. When interacting with toxic family members, be aware that you're stepping into a potentially…
Recognizing toxicity and abuse within our families isn't always easy, especially when it's deeply ingrained in our culture. It's often simpler to spot these issues in others' families than in our own. But it's crucial to develop the eyes to see the harm, even if it's normalized. As disciples of…
All the theories in the world fall short if they can't weave into the fabric of our relationships, both with ourselves and others. It's disheartening to witness relationships being caught in various conflicts, where all parties are seemingly unable to see beyond the surface issues. Many times, it's not about…
Many of us have the shared experience of feeling frustration at finding ourselves in familiar quarrels, wondering why it feels like déjà vu. We're aware of our actions and their impact, but still, the patterns persist. Do you often ask yourself, "Why am I in this same quarrel again?" It…
Have you ever considered that our eagerness to help might unintentionally become obstacles in others' journeys towards God? It's a realization that hit hard - thinking I was bringing others closer to God, only to see damaged relationships, anger, resentment, and hurt. Often, our sincere attempts to help, rooted in…
In this episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, I share about my struggle with the Messiah Complex. We all view "laying down our life" through our unique lenses, influenced by upbringing and personal perspectives. Even those guiding us in faith may bring their own interpretations. Layers of distortions exist, both…
n this video I share with you the process I use to discern how to respond to the Clarity applications I receive. By sharing this 'behind-the-scenes' process with you I hope to assure you that your best interests are being looked after and give you a deeper insight into how…
When we lay down our lives and seek to please God from a place of abundance, knowing He delights in us just as we are, a profound transformation occurs. No matter how flawed we may be, God's love is unwavering. In the depth of our existence, He continues to love…
In our journey with God, entering the relationship from an insecure base may hinder us from presenting our true selves before Him. It's crucial to grow in love for God beyond seeking what He can do for us. We must recognize the danger of not being aware of where we…
One of the foundational principles of the spiritual life is to be where we are and to encounter God exactly where we are. It takes humility, a humility that comes from secure attachment. When we know we are loved for who we are, regardless of our successes or failures, it…
In this video I explain why I chose the MCODE™ and MBTI® Step II instruments for the Clarity Interior Integration Journey and how the methodology is designed so that these personality tests are leveraged to support the interior journey. For the FULL VIDEO go to https://youtu.be/0GEslII3QCQ
In this video I talk about why Personality Tests are limited in their usefulness for their interior journey and yet can become great assets if we know how to address those limitations. I also explain why I chose the MCODE™ and MBTI® Step II instruments for the Clarity Interior Integration…
Have you ever encountered someone deeply religious, quoting scriptures and church teachings, yet their presence feels anything but safe? It is possibly a paradox many of us resonate with. Sometimes, the authority others hold can make us question our choices. Faith should be a source of comfort, not fear. It's…
In the journey of faith, it's not uncommon to grapple with the idea of prioritizing our own happiness. The struggle to differentiate ourselves, recognizing that God desires our individual joy, can be challenging yet profoundly liberating. Each one of us possesses incredible dignity, beauty, and preciousness. We're not designed merely…
In the journey of healing, there's a profound realization that we were never truly alone, even in the depths of our struggles. Recognizing that God was always present, experiencing our pain alongside us, opens the door to healing and processing deep-seated traumas. For those with abandonment wounds, the longing for…
In this episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, I share about how the Prayer of the Examen became a guiding light, and how it helped me focus on God's unwavering presence. Building a foundation of safety, allows us cultivate a deep confidence through lived experiences. Knowing that God is with…
In this video clip I talk about my signature offer - the Clarity Interior Integration Journey. Applications are now open until 29 February 2024. FIND OUT MORE: https://www.integroformation.com/clarity-info I take only one small cohort of interior pilgrims through this coaching journey each year. If you are beyond the beginnings of…