In this episode, I engage in a deep and meaningful conversation with Catholic trauma therapist Brya Hanan. We delve into the complexities of trauma, particularly how it intersects with our faith journey. We explore how experience a resistance to going to church and attending mass can be a trauma response,…
In this clip from a recent live coaching call for CLARITY, I delve into the journey of discerning our personal vocation over time. I discuss how life events, including interruptions and suffering, contribute to our understanding of our true calling. Through my own experiences, particularly around trauma and its role…
God is not interested in how well I do. He is much more interested in my genuine, authentic response to His love. At every moment, He is loving me, even if I can’t fully receive it. This understanding has made a huge difference. I used to think faithfulness was a…
In this video, I delve into the transition many of us experience from spiritual fervour to spiritual maturity, especially during deep healing and integration. I discuss the differences between these stages, focusing on their characteristics and how we respond to suffering. By sharing my personal experiences and insights into the…
Understanding faithfulness took a turn after a profound retreat in 2016. For years, I believed faithfulness meant constantly proving my worthiness to God. But I've learnt that God is not constantly evaluating my performance. How can we feel safe if we think we're always being judged? God is more interested…
In this video, I delve into the transition many of us experience from spiritual fervour to spiritual maturity, especially during deep healing and integration. I discuss the differences between these stages, focusing on their characteristics and how we respond to suffering. By sharing my personal experiences and insights into the…
In my journey, I’ve realized that viewing my struggles solely through the lens of sin is limiting. It’s essential to adopt a broader perspective, one illuminated by God's love. God sees us not as sinners, but as His beloved children. While we know this intellectually, our lived reality often feels…
In this episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, I share one of my experiences of integration in my life. When I started listening to my own needs, it transformed my role as a wife. I realized that true intimacy isn't about constantly fixing each other's problems or always making the…
In this video, I address a thought-provoking question from one of my subscribers who asked how can we experience the unconditional love of God. I delve into the concept of embodied spirituality, underscoring the indispensability of involving our entire being—body, senses, and soul—in our spiritual journey to connect with God's…
In this episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, I share one of my experiences of integration in my life. When I started listening to my own needs, it transformed my role as a wife. I realized that true intimacy isn't about constantly fixing each other's problems or always making the…
Does connecting to self necessarily result in connecting with others? And what if my true self doesn't land well with others? This thought-provoking question invites us to dive into the heart of personal growth and relationships. Often, deepening our connection with ourselves leads to more genuine connections with others. When…
Feeling lost in the search for a therapist who perfectly aligns with your faith and understanding? You're not alone. It's rare to find that ideal match. But don't let that deter you from starting your healing journey. Remember, it's on us to actively discern and integrate our faith with emotional…
In this personal narrative, I discuss my journey as a recovering complex trauma survivor, grappling with a deep-seated fear of criticism, judgment, and rejection, and how these fears intersect with my faith and my walk with Christ. I explore the concept of interior integration and the realisation that my fear…
Ever felt like your therapist understood your words but missed the mark on understanding you? You're not alone. It's not just about intellectual comprehension; it's about feeling safe, seen, and heard. We all crave emotional attunement, especially in therapy. While it's tempting to assume that a therapist who shares our…
In our quest for wholeness, we're called to dive deep, beyond the surface, into the layers of our being. Why embark on this journey? So that we have greater capacity for life. As we embark on the path of healing, let's cultivate a profound capacity to embrace life fully. It's…
In this video, I delve into the journey of personal vocation discernment across different stages of faith, inspired by the book 'The Critical Journey'. I share my insights on how our inner journey and the process of discerning our personal calling evolves from the initial stages of discovering God, moving…
Integration isn't just about bringing things together; it's about recognizing the intricate layers of our existence. Our Outer Layer is where life's events unfold, where relationships bloom, and circumstances shape us. It's the tangible world we navigate daily. Our Inner Layer dicesdeeper into our emotions, thoughts, and sensations. Here, your…
When you've found someone to potentially walk alongside you on your spiritual path, remember: discernment requires action. You need to experience it. So, if you've had a positive encounter — perhaps during a retreat or through a recommendation — take that next step.Ask, inquire if he or she can journey…
Discovering your spiritual path is like navigating through different landscapes, each offering unique insights and challenges. Whether you're just starting or deepening your connection with God, understanding your journey's phase is important. But as we progress, our needs evolve. What once served us might feel stagnant, and we yearn for…
In this video, I share my personal experience with spiritual midlife crisis, something I hadn't known existed until I found myself deeply enveloped in it over the past eight years. I share about the difficult and transformative phases of my journey, including moments of doubt, deep introspection, and the deconstruction…
As we traverse the winding paths of our lives, our needs evolve, our desires shift. It's vital to pause and reflect: What are you truly in need of at this moment? Are you in need of a compassionate listener, who will hold space for your doubts and questions without judgment?…
As we journey alongside spiritual directors or therapists, the evolution of our relationships can sometimes blur boundaries. It's essential to recognize when a shift occurs, ensuring we honor the sanctity of the professional relationship. In therapy, the line between professional and personal is firmly drawn. However, in spiritual direction, nuances…
In this video, I introduce and share reflections from “The Critical Journey: Stages in the Life of Faith,' by Janet O. Hagberg and Robert A. Guelich. This remarkable resource opened my eyes to the stages of faith development, reinforcing the crucial role of experiential learning and integrating emotional healing with…
As we journey through life, our paths intertwine with those who guide us spiritually or therapeutically. These individuals bring skills, training, and unique gifts to aid our growth. Yet, they, like us, are limited beings. Your current guide may perfectly align with your needs now, fostering growth in this season…