Videos

In this video I look at three blocks that disciples trying to deepen our relationship with God often encounter. We often think of these as spiritual blocks, but in my experience, they have a lot to do with attachment trauma. Spirituality rests on the bedrock of our humanity, it is…

When your interior journey begins to deepen it needs to be nurtured with more silence and solitude than before. You will need to choose between this new inner life and the various other things you fill your time with. Find out more on Episode 94 | When Your Interior Journey…

What is safe companionship and why do we all long for it? When we find someone with whom we can be our authentic selves, we start to feel safe? Do we have someone who makes us feel safe? Can we perhaps be that safe space for ourselves? I invite you…

No matter what our vocation is in this world, we have to learn to enjoy what we have and build that secure trust with ourselves and with God. Once we do that, we are able to be held safely. Find out more on Episode 93 | Loneliness In Singlehood and…

For many aspiring disciples of Christ, “self-care” is a guilt inducing word. We think it is the opposite of laying down our lives and thus is at most a concession for our weakness. How do we see this problem through the lens of interior integration? In this video I offer…

Do you have the support or a loving space to make the journey into discovering who you are outside of your communities, families and relationships? Could you perhaps be that support for someone who is also making this journey into wholeness? I invite you to listen to Episode 92 |…

When we are able to grow in freedom and authenticity, we are also able to love authentically. Our decisions and life will also be impacted and the outcome also will become more loving. I invite you to listen to Episode 91 | "Doing The Right Thing" vs Being Authentically Loving…

Forgiveness - like love - is a religious and spiritual precept that we struggle to integrate into real life and many of us end up spiritualising forgiveness which harms us instead of binding up our wounds. In this video I share three signs that may indicate you are spiritualising forgiveness…

What does being authentically loving look like? Loving authentically and freely requires us to look, not just at the act, but what's going in me, as I love in this situation. It is about the person, and not just the act. Find out more on Episode 91 | "Doing The…

Conviction alone can’t get you where you want or need to go. Eg: I want to live a life that gives God glory - I want to serve God / his people etc When we don’t do the work of interior integration we often end up hiding behind our convictions…

Sometimes, we may see our bodies as a liability. We see them as something that gets in the way of getting our daily tasks done. If we stop and think about it, we see that our bodies are wonderfully designed. God has given us unique bodies with limits by design.…

Many of us still carry the wounds and traumas of our childhood. We did not have a good relationship with our emotions. Unfortunately, this is usually because our parents and caregivers were not able to attune to our emotions. Now, as we move along this interior journey, we learn to…

When we embark on this interior journey, we start to realise that there are different aspects of ourselves that are disjointed. This journey is about integration. Once we learn to better integrate the different parts of ourselves, we are more able to hold space for ourselves and for others. We…

Complex trauma survivors who are also Christians have an additional tension and challenge to overcome in our healing journey. “What about loving the enemy? Especially when the enemy is my family member(s)?” This is why integration is necessary - this is complex and delicate, it is both nature and grace,…

We all struggle to integrate the different dimensions of our journeys, especially the spiritual interior journey and the human interior journey. They are meant to be integrated. We need to allow healing of our fragmented selves to happen so that we can better embody a faith that has both dimensions…

Are you constantly busying yourself? Is there something that you are not willing to face. Sometimes, we become busy to avoid having to face ourselves. To live intentionally, we must first make space for ourselves to be and to ponder. Then only can we truly be free in our responses.…

Day 30: “What’s an interior integration coach and why are you one?” I often get asked how what I do is different from spiritual direction, counselling/therapy and life coaching. In this last live of the 30 day challenge series I explain what interior integration specifically addresses and how the kind…

Most of us live unintentionally. If we want to live freely, we need to experience the power to choose our responses. The only way to do this is to make space for ourselves. Find out more on Episode 87 | Slowing Down Is About Freedom Listen to the full episode:…

DAY 29: You can’t flourish without PRESENCE & ATTUNEMENT Why is it that even when we KNOW what we need to do and when we even try to do “the right things” so few of us truly thrive and flourish? In this video I share how getting things done (even…

Do you find yourself having the same kinds of conflicts over and over again? In this video I shared THREE stories of conflict in my relationship with my husband and my growing awareness of how my body’s memory of past trauma heavily contributed to those conflicts. I also share how…

DAY 28: “How can I be authentic in my struggle with being childless?” There is a secret shame and hidden pain for those of us whose community (family/church) value marriage and children when our marriage situation does not match that “ideal”. In this live I responded to someone who asked…

Whether you are in extrovert or introvert, it is important to be more integrated with ourselves, so that we can be more rooted in our core and interior space. We need to know ourselves deeply and concretely. I invite you to listen to Episode 86 | Why Your Self-Knowledge Needs…

DAY 27: How healing changed me and my interior journey What real life difference does interior healing make in our day to day living? What difference does healing make to the way we see, approach and experience the interior journey? What does one need to do to begin healing? And…

Our older methods of pushing and driving ourselves towards God may not always work as effectively as we hope. If we can allow ourselves to be drawn in by God, we will come to realise how much less effort it takes, as we ride on the grace of God and…