Many of us didn’t grow up experiencing secure attachment, but the beautiful truth is that we can still grow into it. Through God’s grace, we can heal and develop what’s known as earned secure attachment—a deep, secure connection with both God and ourselves. It’s not just about faith; it’s about…
In life, it's love that keeps us moving forward, despite the challenges. Whether it’s criticism, rejection, or the weight of past trauma, love remains greater. Many of us struggle to understand true love because we’ve never experienced it in its pure form. Trauma distorts our ability to love, leaving us…
As we journey deeper into our spiritual lives, we begin to understand that our vocation isn't just about what we do—it's about who we are. God's call is one of love, inviting us to truly come alive in the unique way we were created to be. The more we embrace…
There comes a time in our spiritual journey when our approach to vocation and purpose begins to shift. It's no longer about constantly asking, "What can I do for God?" or "How can I serve?" Instead, we find ourselves in a place of deep surrender, where we begin to realize…
In this episode, I share some updates as my subscriber count has grown across various platforms. Whether you're new to my content or a long-time follower, I introduce myself, my journey, and my mission behind creating content to support the interior integration journey of deepening intimacy with God and psychological…
Developing spiritual maturity involves more than just focusing on the spiritual aspect of our humanity. Spiritual maturity requires emotional depth and maturity, and this requires our emotional and psychological healing to be integrated with our spirituality. To find out more, I invite you to listen to Episode 135 | What's…
When we are in the grips of spiritual fervour, we feel very passionate about our faith and about God. But we often do not have self-awareness, and in our passion, we can be very fixed and very rigid about there being right ways of doing something. We can be very…
"We are a whole, but we are many parts." Spiritual growth isn't just about focusing on one aspect of our being. There are spiritual, physical, intellectual, mental, psychological, and social dimensions, all intricately connected. You can't address one without touching the others. What is your relationship with yourself? What is…
Perhaps I may have experienced what it's like to be chosen and cherished without reservation, being called Beloved by God. It's a beautiful, touching experience. However, there's always that part of me still in survival mode, unable to reconcile with this unconditional acceptance. While one part of me has basked…
Trauma touches us all in different ways, shaping our lives, relationships, and spirituality. We each carry experiences of things done unto us that harmed us, or things left undone which we needed. Trauma weaves a complex tapestry of coping mechanisms and survival strategies within us. In our diverse needs and…
Join me in this candid episode as I engage in a heartfelt conversation with trauma-informed and somatic-trained Catholic spiritual guide Edwina Yeow, founder of Anam Cara Ministries (Singapore). We delve into the deep connection between trauma, spirituality, and our relationship with God. Edwina, a seasoned Catholic spiritual director with 30…
Embracing Spiritual Midlife with Grace Spiritual midlife can feel deeply uncomfortable for many of us. For those who have relied on our strength and ego to navigate life and to achieve spiritual growth, it can be a shock to realise that, at this stage, there's nothing more we can do…
In our spiritual journey, there comes a time when everything we've built up—our knowledge, our accomplishments, our sense of certainty — begins to feel inadequate. This phase, often referred to as the spiritual mid-life, is disorienting. It's a period where the foundations we've laid seem to crumble, and what once…
Embrace the journey of growth without rushing it. We're all on our unique path, evolving at our own pace. It's not about forcing ourselves to be something we're not yet ready to be, but about recognizing that each step we take is meaningful. We were created with a unique purpose,…
In this episode, I delve into how our healing from complex trauma also heals our image of God. Drawing from my own experiences since 2008, I discuss three types of trauma—emotional neglect, emotional/spiritual abuse, and enmeshment trauma—and their impact on our relationship with God. I explain how authentic love and…
Just like a child's growth can signal underlying issues when it stalls, our spiritual growth can hit roadblocks too. If you feel stuck in your faith journey, it's a good time to seek guidance from those who have walked the path before you. Remember, faith development isn't about hitting milestones;…
As we become more integrated, our capacity to receive God's unconditional love deepens. This understanding isn't just intellectual; it permeates our entire being. We start to rest in the knowledge that we are loved by God, which shifts our focus from perfect performance to authentic relationship. This newfound confidence allows…
In this episode, I explore how complex trauma affects our ability to make spiritual discernment. I discuss the importance of a secure attachment with God, the impact of trauma on our nervous system, and how healing and integration can transform our interior freedom in the discernment process. Follow me on…
On the journey of holistic integration, we start valuing the messy and imperfect process of making our faith real. This means embracing our emotions and bodies rather than numbing them for a perfectly performed faith. It's about trusting that God is present in the reality of our lives, with all…
When I give authentically and freely, it strengthens my self-trust and sense of wholeness. Genuine self-gift is an integrative force, connecting me to myself and others. It's about being attuned to the nuances of each situation and making compassionate choices from a place of freedom. Each time I give freely,…
Self-abandonment leads to losing trust in yourself, making you feel empty, unseen and unappreciated. When you constantly sacrifice yourself and others don't support you, it's not just about losing faith in them — it's about losing faith in yourself. This creates a cycle where you doubt your own worth and…
In this week's episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, we delve into the nuances of faith and personal autonomy. Brya and I share our experiences of discovering how God values our happiness and well-being. It may be challenging to navigate our internal conflict between religious obligations and the lack of…
Are you feeling overwhelmed by the struggle of dealing with trauma? In our latest episode, we dive deep into the real and raw experiences of navigating trauma, faith, and personal growth. In this episode, we discuss the challenges of overcoming trauma and the physical and emotional barriers it creates and…
Ever wondered how integrating faith and psychology can enhance your interior health journey? In our latest episode of this new season, we explore trauma responses, particularly, with going to mass. Joining me in this episode is a special guest, Brya Hanan — a Catholic trauma therapist who has successfully blended…