How Does God Heal Complex Trauma? In this episode of the Becoming Me podcast, I delve into an intriguing question posed by one of my listeners: Can healing of complex trauma happen through a personal encounter with God where He reveals His true nature to us? Building on a previous…
For those of us who have experienced trauma, the idea of spiritual freedom can feel out of reach. So many basic aspects of our humanity—like owning and exercising our freedom—were never fully developed. We were often too afraid to choose freely, fearing our choices would upset others and lead to…
For so long, I didn’t trust my own desires. I was constantly asking God, “Is this what You want me to want? Is this right?” It caused so much anxiety and guilt because I feared my desires didn’t align with His will. But as I heal, I’ve discovered something amazing:…
I realised something profound: I’ve struggled to sense God’s love, not because He’s distant, but because I believed He had to love me, as if it were an obligation. I thought I knew Him, that my relationship with God was solid—especially after some powerful conversion experiences in my relationship with…
Discernment isn’t about feeling pressured or coerced into figuring out exactly what God wants. It’s not about making the "perfect" or "holiest" choice out of fear or perfectionism. True discernment happens in a relationship of mutual love and freedom—between God and us. When we feel the weight of compulsion to…
When we carry unhealed trauma, it can feel like our nervous system is constantly in an agitated, hyper-vigilant, and stressed state. This makes it harder to fully act with clarity or purpose because our brain shifts into survival mode. In this state, fear can dominate our discernment process and we…
More important than our ability to say "yes" to everything we feel God asks of us is our ability to feel safe in His love, safe enough to give our genuine, authentic answer. It's okay to say, "Lord, if this is what You're asking, I’m not ready. I can’t do…
One of the simplest yet most powerful things we can do in our spiritual journey is to ask God to help us experience His love. It’s easy to forget, but Jesus promised — ask and you shall receive. You don’t need the perfect words or elaborate prayers, just a humble…
Our bodies are a divine gift, intricately designed to connect us with the world—and with God. Yet, many of us have grown distant from this truth. We've learned to distrust our senses, believing pleasure to be something undeserved or even wrong. But here's the reality: God created our bodies and…
We often think we've fully experienced God's love, but have we truly embraced His unconditional love? There's a profound difference. I used to believe that understanding God's love meant I knew everything about it — until I learned to fully receive His love without conditions. But here’s the challenge: Many…
As we heal and grow, we learn from Christ's example. His unwavering sense of self, grounded in His relationship with the Father, shows us the power of secure attachment — both to God and to ourselves. Despite criticism, judgment, and misunderstanding, Jesus stood firm, knowing who He was and trusting…
Many of us didn’t grow up experiencing secure attachment, but the beautiful truth is that we can still grow into it. Through God’s grace, we can heal and develop what’s known as earned secure attachment—a deep, secure connection with both God and ourselves. It’s not just about faith; it’s about…
In life, it's love that keeps us moving forward, despite the challenges. Whether it’s criticism, rejection, or the weight of past trauma, love remains greater. Many of us struggle to understand true love because we’ve never experienced it in its pure form. Trauma distorts our ability to love, leaving us…
As we journey deeper into our spiritual lives, we begin to understand that our vocation isn't just about what we do—it's about who we are. God's call is one of love, inviting us to truly come alive in the unique way we were created to be. The more we embrace…
There comes a time in our spiritual journey when our approach to vocation and purpose begins to shift. It's no longer about constantly asking, "What can I do for God?" or "How can I serve?" Instead, we find ourselves in a place of deep surrender, where we begin to realize…
In this episode, I share some updates as my subscriber count has grown across various platforms. Whether you're new to my content or a long-time follower, I introduce myself, my journey, and my mission behind creating content to support the interior integration journey of deepening intimacy with God and psychological…
Developing spiritual maturity involves more than just focusing on the spiritual aspect of our humanity. Spiritual maturity requires emotional depth and maturity, and this requires our emotional and psychological healing to be integrated with our spirituality. To find out more, I invite you to listen to Episode 135 | What's…
When we are in the grips of spiritual fervour, we feel very passionate about our faith and about God. But we often do not have self-awareness, and in our passion, we can be very fixed and very rigid about there being right ways of doing something. We can be very…
"We are a whole, but we are many parts." Spiritual growth isn't just about focusing on one aspect of our being. There are spiritual, physical, intellectual, mental, psychological, and social dimensions, all intricately connected. You can't address one without touching the others. What is your relationship with yourself? What is…
Perhaps I may have experienced what it's like to be chosen and cherished without reservation, being called Beloved by God. It's a beautiful, touching experience. However, there's always that part of me still in survival mode, unable to reconcile with this unconditional acceptance. While one part of me has basked…
Trauma touches us all in different ways, shaping our lives, relationships, and spirituality. We each carry experiences of things done unto us that harmed us, or things left undone which we needed. Trauma weaves a complex tapestry of coping mechanisms and survival strategies within us. In our diverse needs and…
Join me in this candid episode as I engage in a heartfelt conversation with trauma-informed and somatic-trained Catholic spiritual guide Edwina Yeow, founder of Anam Cara Ministries (Singapore). We delve into the deep connection between trauma, spirituality, and our relationship with God. Edwina, a seasoned Catholic spiritual director with 30…
Embracing Spiritual Midlife with Grace Spiritual midlife can feel deeply uncomfortable for many of us. For those who have relied on our strength and ego to navigate life and to achieve spiritual growth, it can be a shock to realise that, at this stage, there's nothing more we can do…
In our spiritual journey, there comes a time when everything we've built up—our knowledge, our accomplishments, our sense of certainty — begins to feel inadequate. This phase, often referred to as the spiritual mid-life, is disorienting. It's a period where the foundations we've laid seem to crumble, and what once…