Episodes

Episode 76 This episode is the first in a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior journey every day for 30 days straight. On Day 1 I shared about how it was a very human experience of deep loneliness and abandonment as a teenager that led me to begin making my interior journey. It’s sometimes easy to forget that it is from the real and concrete contexts of our suffering that we recognise that we are created ...

Episode 77 In this episode I talk about noticing the unique pattern of brokenness in our lives and why that's a crucial part of the interior journey. The specific pattern of our brokenness contain clues and invitations to healing and also tells us something about the ways we were actually meant to live. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior journey every day for 30 days straight. ...

Episode 78 This was such an important foundational topic to cover about the interior journey. This is something so many of us struggle with without knowing - how to be at home with our Self and be secure. When we don't feel secure in our own bodies, we will continue to look for security from sources outside of ourselves through exerting control. But when we experience coming home to ourselves, we will finally be able to feel at rest. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagra...

Episode 79 Do you trust your emotions? Our lack of a good relationship with our emotions impact our ability to TRUST OURSELVES to make good decisions and spiritual discernment. Trust is earned, even when it is with ourselves. And to lead ourselves well, we need to rebuild our trust in our emotions and let them play their critical role in our lives without overwhelming or dominating us. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to sp...

Episode 80 The most difficult and courageous thing I've ever had to do in the interior journey was confront the TRUTH of my relationship with my parents and the ways they have wounded me even though they love me the best they could. In this episode I share why acknowledging the painful truth of how our parents have wounded us is a non-negotiable for anyone wanting to become integrated, and also how we can be hopeful even when nothing external changes. This episode is part of a series taken from ...

Episode 81 One mark of a lack of interior integration is SPIRITUALISING . And this can have real detrimental impact on ourselves, our families and our communities. In this episode I talk about three specific ways spiritualising can blind us from reality, keep us from actually loving, and even helps keep real evil under a spiritualised wrap. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior jo...

Episode 82 What do we need to successfully embark and stay on the interior journey? In this episode I explain three factors that we often miss out in our understanding of the interior journey - and they are Timing, Grace and Readiness . If you've been frustrated at your lack of progress even though you've been putting in effort, it may be due to one or more of these factors being missing. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video t...

Episode 83 In today’s episode I responded to a question about FREEDOM . What does it mean to be interiorly free? What is that freedom like? How do we recognise when we are unfree? How can we become more free? Listen to this episode to hear me discuss these questions from a practical and experiential perspective. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior journey every day for 30 days s...

Episode 84 Many of us struggle between demanding standards of virtue and holiness from ourselves/others and being compassionate as we know we are called to be. In this episode I invite you to observe the energy underlying your zeal or your desire to be compassionate. Are these tied to a fear of falling short somehow? Do you feel pushed or are you drawn from a place of loving freedom? I also explain how integration will help you navigate this particular tension with greater ease and grace. This e...

Episode 85 We are often used to getting results in many areas of life by working harder, pushing past our limits and bypassing our weaknesses. Most of us try to approach our spiritual and interior lives in the same way when we begin to take our interior journey seriously. Yet these methods that we default to actually backfire when we try to use them to grow in integration and authenticity and wholeness in Christ. In this episode I discuss why that is the case. This episode is part of a series ta...

Episode 86 How well do you know yourself? The more specific and concrete we can get about knowing the way we are uniquely created and how to be aligned with our design, the freer and more confident we become in making our journey and in taking up the unique mission God created us to do. In this episode I share some real life examples of individuals who have developed greater freedom and confidence because they gotten a lot more specific in their self-knowledge. This episode is part of a series t...

Episode 87 In the interior journey it's not how slow or fast you are but the quality of the energy and presence you embody that shows how much space is within you. Slowing down is a way of cultivating that SPACE within us that enables us to exercise our freedom to choose our responses. For many of us addicted to busyness, preoccupation and speed, we may not be able to slow down with our own efforts. Even when we think we have slowed down, in reality we are not slowing down nearly enough. Listen ...

Episode 88 Illness. Burn out. Relationships breaking down. Death. Losing a job. Giving birth. These are some of life’s interruptions that can throw us off our carefully planned lives and make us feel destabilised. Our instinct is usually to over-function and overcome these interruptions, but as INTERIOR PILGRIMS we have the option of seeing these interruptions as God’s invitation for us to do the REAL work of growing in freedom, restoration and love. In this episode I talk about how life’s inter...

Episode 89 What’s the difference between controlling our emotions and regulating them? We often try to control our emotions in order to “be loving” but by doing so we actually make it harder for us to make authentic connections. In this episode I share my experience on the difference between controlling my emotions and learning to regulate by attuning to them and the impact this has on my ability to be a safer space for myself and others. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Ins...

Episode 90 Did you know your lack of a good relationship with your own BODY prevents you from being able to TRUST God, your Self or others? When we try to discipline our body without first having a loving relationship with it, we deepen the emotional fracture within our being. In this episode I share how God led me to reconsider my relationship with my body and learn to be able to trust Him more fully. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on...

Episode 91 There’s a world of difference between shutting down our emotions and ignoring our needs to “do the right thing” and being genuinely, authentically loving with our whole being. In this episode I explain this distinction and share with very concrete experience how differently these two frameworks operate and how only one of them sets us free to become more alive and more truly loving. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live vid...

Episode 92 In order to love authentically, we need to have a healthy sense of who we are as a separate SELF. In this episode I talk about why being enmeshed or too detached in our relationships both prevent us from becoming more fully alive and authentically loving. I also address a question about the particular challenge of being an Asian/Chinese Catholic making this interior journey of integration. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on l...

Episode 93 Loneliness is a universal experience, regardless of whether you are single or married (or in religious life/ordained)! What’s at the root of our loneliness? How do we build a foundation towards having secure attachment with others and with God? Tune in to this episode to hear me talk about how no-one, not even God, can replace a secure relationship with our SELF. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about di...

Episode 94 At some point of the interior journey we will feel disconnected with the outside world and this can be scary if we don’t understand why it’s happening or how to respond. In this episode I explain why this sense of disconnection happens at specific seasons of the interior journey and what practical action we can take to nurture and protect our emerging interior life. This episode will be particularly helpful for those of you who need more than the usual advice about prayer as you enter...

Episode 95 In my season of deep healing I was led to rediscover how to receive delight, rest, pleasure, rest and be extravagant with beauty without guilt. I never knew until that season how “holiness” and “goodness” and my image of God had been distorted in my life through trauma to be narrow, pedantic, dogmatic and puritanical. Hear how I experienced embodied spiritual healing through contemplative photography, gourmet coffee and becoming a pet parent to my dog Miko! This episode is part of a s...

Episode 96 “How do I pace myself on the interior journey when the speed of what comes up (mostly past experiences, childhood memories) is faster than what I can process or unpack?” In this episode I offer THREE clear and very practical steps of what to do when the interior journey becomes overwhelming. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior journey every day for 30 days straight. W...

Episode 97 How can you maintain inner freedom and equilibrium when other people project their issues onto you? In this episode I explain the first principles behind a process that allows us to become more anchored in our True Identity which will allow us to respond to other people’s projections onto us with greater authenticity and integrity. I teach this process in the context of leadership in my online course A Leader’s Spirituality (ALS): https://www.integroformation.com/als This episode is p...

Episode 98 How do we begin to develop secure attachment with God and others in adulthood when we have struggled so long with insecurity about our loveableness? In this episode I break this question down from the perspective of interior integration and share some practical steps you can take. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior journey every day for 30 days straight. Watch this r...

Episode 99 I used to appear confident and successful externally but felt so anxious inside. I was a high achiever who felt like an imposter and who feared losing the regard that others had of me because of my achievements. In this episode I share the real experience of my journey into being able to confidently choose to be aligned with who I am and the gifts I know I have been given by saying “NO”, even at the risk of upsetting others I admired. If you’re a recovering people-pleaser you’ll under...