Episodes

EPISODE 24 It can be easy to feel guilty for wanting to live a life that would make ourselves happy. As a result, many of us end up living according to other people's desires for us instead of choosing a life aligned to our own heart's deep desire. In this episode, I explain why listening to our heart's deep gladness is a necessary part of living a life that truly blesses others. Share this episode via this episode page . Blog Post: Your Life is About You (Too) CHAPTER MARKERS (00:00:40) - Is it...

EPISODE 25 (BONUS) What do you do when you find yourself living life at an unsustainable pace? Do you slow yourself down or find yourself peddling harder, thinking that you'll catch up if you go fast enough? In this special bonus episode, I bring you 'behind the scenes' into how I accompany myself when I struggle with slowing down even when I know that's what I need. My sharing illustrates how I try to honour the pace I need when life throws some unexpected curve balls. I also share a couple of ...

EPISODE 26 (BONUS) Do you try to dominate and push yourself into living more authentically? Or have you learned to accompany yourself with reverence and compassion? (This episode first appeared as an IGTV and Facebook video ) Share this episode via this episode page . ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode: - Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with Yourself TRANSCRIPT Available here . PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Download...

EPISODE 27 What impact does making the interior journey have on a marriage? Henry and I look back at our 22 years of couple-hood and 14 years of marriage and share how our own commitment to our individual healing and integration has transformed our relationship. In Part 1 of this conversation we talk about the liberating discovery that we are not meant to complete each other, the joy of discovering beauty in what IS in the here and now, and what practicing healthy boundaries with our selves and ...

EPISODE 28 What impact does making the interior journey have on a marriage? Henry and I look back at our 22 years of couple-hood and 14 years of marriage and share how our own commitment to our individual healing and integration has transformed our relationship. In Part 2 of this conversation we continue to talk about how practicing healthy boundaries transformed our relationship, how we have learned to respond when our insecurities are triggered and how becoming more skilled at repairing ruptur...

EPISODE 29 Making the interior journey into authenticity and wholeness is not easy. But could we also be making it even more difficult than it has to be? In this episode I talk about three common ways we often unwittingly sabotage ourselves by treating ourselves with contempt, having unrealistic expectations, and not availing ourselves to the support we need. Share this episode via this episode page . CHAPTER MARKERS (00:00:08) - Introduction (00:01:04) - 1. Self-contempt (00:09:52) - 2. Unreali...

EPISODE 30 How familiar are you with the emotional and spiritual challenges of your interior journey? When and why should you consider getting counselling/therapy or spiritual direction? How are they different from each other and how do you know which one you need? In this episode, I offer an introductory explanation to the questions above and offer a real illustration of how the emotional and spiritual dimensions of the interior journey are connected and how these resources can help through a s...

EPISODE 31 (BONUS) This episode is edited from a live breakout session I presented in July 2021 at the "Catholyst" New Evangelisation Conference (Catholic Archdiocese of Singapore). In this episode, I share how my pursuit of a deeper relationship with God and my desire to serve in full-time pastoral ministry led me to realise that I needed to make the journey into authenticity and wholeness and that being REAL was more important than a constant striving to be 'GOOD'. There is also a Q&A session...

EPISODE 32 A lack of self-compassion can often come from unrealistic expectations or comparison with others who have very different gifts than we do. In this 1 year anniversary episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, I talk about why learning to understand your unique personal design can help you make your interior journey with greater grace and ease even when circumstances are challenging. You can watch the short video message for you on the occasion of Becoming Me's first birthday by clicking HERE...

EPISODE 33 What is Motivational Design and how does it give us clues to the unique way we are called to live, work, love and serve? This is the first of three episodes featuring an interview with Dr. Joshua Miller (PhD), Founder of INSCAPE Personal Vocation Centre and co-author of Unrepeatable: Cultivating the Unique Calling of Every Person . In Part 1, Dr. Josh Miller and I talk about what Motivational Design is, the importance of broadening the definition of "service" to consider the unique ...

EPISODE 34 What is Motivational Design and how does it give us clues to the unique way we are called to live, work, love and serve? This is the second of three episodes featuring an interview with Dr. Joshua Miller (PhD), Founder of INSCAPE Personal Vocation Centre and co-author of Unrepeatable: Cultivating the Unique Calling of Every Person . In Part 2, we discuss the following questions: What’s at stake if we ignore our motivational design? Do people ever struggle to accept their given motiva...

EPISODE 35 What is Motivational Design and how does it give us clues to the unique way we are called to live, work, love and serve? This is the last of three episodes featuring an interview with Dr. Joshua Miller (PhD), Founder of INSCAPE Personal Vocation Centre and co-author of Unrepeatable: Cultivating the Unique Calling of Every Person . In Part 3, Dr Miller and I talk about how living in alignment with our motivational design and Personal Vocation helps us not only live with greater joy and...

EPISODE 36 Do you ever feel like you have to choose between being true to yourself (authenticity) and being accepted by others (belonging)? For many people, this internal conflict between our need for authenticity and our need for genuine attachment continue to tear our inner lives apart. Many of us have learned to sacrifice our authenticity for the sake of keeping relationships, but over time we find ourselves deeply unhappy because we have inadvertently abandoned ourselves because of our fear ...

EPISODE 37 In this special episode, I take the hot seat and let fellow podcaster Nicole Law, host of nourishthesoul , interview me about my journey with Becoming Me in this first year. I share the story behind "the call" for me to podcast, my approach to thinking up topics for episodes, insecurities about the podcast's performance and how producing this podcast challenges me to live what I preach in new ways. Guest Profile , Transcript and Chapter Markers at this episode page. CHAPTER MARKERS (0...

EPISODE 38 (BONUS) This podcast episode is the audio version of a video I made for my clients, subscribers, and followers who have been growing with me and my work over 2021. I share about areas of personal and professional growth I have experienced this year as well as some new offers for those of you who are interested in having me teach or coach you in your interior journey. Share this episode via this episode page . TRANSCRIPT Available here . LINKS Exploratory Integrative Life Consultation...

EPISODE 39 (BONUS) In this bonus episode I give a big picture overview of the thematic arcs in the Becoming Me Podcast and how they relate to the interior journey into authenticity. I also talk about what theme to expect in the new season drop for Feb 2022. Watch the video of this episode here . For a bonus 5 min video on Allowing Yourself to Change with Life’s Seasons which I made at the turn of the new year, click here . You can watch the short video message for you on the occasion of Becomin...

EPISODE 40 (BONUS) Are you stressed during Chinese New Year? Hate the feeling of having to give a "progress report" of your life to relatives who want to know about your marital/family status, work, studies etc? Here are some simple reminders to help keep you calm, grounded and prepared to honour your boundaries as you go CNY visiting! Happy Chinese/Lunar New Year everyone! - Ann Yeong Watch the video of this episode here . Share this episode via this episode page . TRANSCRIPT Available here . ...

EPISODE 41 (BONUS) How do we maintain our course towards greater authenticity and integrity when our Church is rocked by scandal? In this podcast I talk about how important it is to acknowledge and include our emotions in our response instead of denying, repressing, or bypassing them. I also share some tips and resources that can help with processing our complex thoughts and emotions in these challenging times. Watch the original video of this episode here . Share this episode via this episode p...

EPISODE 42 Many of us long to be more authentic than we are able to be. We feel that our ability to be authentic is constrained by a lack of acceptance from other people. But what if we can increase our internal capacity to be authentic regardless of extrinsic circumstances? In this episode I talk about how the journey into wholeness enlarges our capacity to be our true selves even when we experience rejection from others. Share this episode via this episode page. CHAPTER MARKERS (00:00:20) - In...

EPISODE 43 Who or what is my inner child? What is inner child healing and how does it help me in my interior journey? In this three part series on Inner Child Healing, clinical psychologist Dr. Jean Cheng and I delve into how this particular kind of interior work can help bring us to wholeness and live a more authentic life. In this episode we hear a little about Dr. Jean Cheng's own journey and get introduced to who/what our inner child is. Share this episode via this episode page . CHAPTER MAR...

EPISODE 44 How did we learn to distrust our emotions? Or to disconnect from our inner knowing about our needs in order to keep pushing through to deliver what is expected of us, even if it harms us? In this second part of my conversation with Dr Jean Cheng about inner child healing, we talk about how our inner children received wounding and what's at stake when, as adults, our inner children do not find healing This episode is particularly rich with analysis, examples and stories about children ...

EPISODE 45 In this third and final part of the series on Inner Child Healing with Dr Jean Cheng, we talk about: - How do we begin to heal our inner child? What is inner child reparenting? - How does healing our relationship with ourselves help us love others better? - What might we be able to expect if we embark on inner child healing? Have questions about inner child healing? Ask them HERE ! Share this episode via this episode page. BOOKS ON INNER CHILD HEALING Healing Your Aloneness by Erika C...

EPISODE 46 Just what kind of impact can healing your inner child make in your life? In this follow-up episode to the interview with Dr Jean Cheng, I share about three ways that inner child healing helped me increase my capacity for authenticity and integrity by: - Helping me to stop second-guessing myself; - Helping me to stop people-pleasing; - Helping me grow my moral courage to use my voice and stand by my choices calmly Share this episode via this episode page. CHAPTER MARKERS (00:00:21) - I...

EPISODE 47 Have you ever experienced a dissonance between knowing that you are loved and really FEELING that you are loved in your body? For the longest time I used to think there was something wrong with me because I couldn't really experience the love that I cognitively believed God loved me with. In this episode I share about why this dissonance existed and how inner child healing finally helped me to bridge that gap. Inner child work was the practical healing I didn't know I needed to help m...