Episodes
July 22, 2024
Distinguishing Between Self-Abandonment and Authentic Self-Gift
Episode 130 In this episode, I share my deep personal reflections on what it means to lay down my life in alignment with Christ, but without feeling lesser for it. Growing up in an enmeshed family system with rigid expectatio...
July 15, 2024
Why Not Going To Church Can Be A Trauma Response (with Brya Hanan LMFT)
Episode 129 In this episode, I engage in a deep and meaningful conversation with Catholic author and trauma therapist Brya Hanan. We delve into the complexities of trauma, particularly how it intersects with our faith journey...
June 3, 2024
Embracing Complexity: Rediscovering Faithfulness In The Healing Journey
Episode 128 In this final episode of the season, I share how my understanding of faithfulness has evolved as I healed. Initially, my understanding of faithfulness was deeply rooted in a binary, performance-based perspective, ...
May 27, 2024
Finding Self-Love Amidst Compulsions & Addictions
Episode 127 In this podcast episode, I open up about a deeply personal and often stigmatised issue - my struggle with compulsions and addictions. I discuss how these issues are not only challenging to confront but are also sh...
May 20, 2024
Embracing Your True Self & Making Authentic Connections
Episode 126 In this episode, I delve into a poignant question raised during a webinar Q&A session about whether connecting with oneself inevitably enhances our connections with others, especially when expressing our true selv...
May 13, 2024
How Important Is It To Choose A Catholic/Christian Therapist?
Episode 125 In this episode of our current series, I delve into the topic of whether choosing a therapist or spiritual director of the same faith, specifically Christian or Catholic, is crucial for one's journey towards inter...
May 6, 2024
4 Considerations When Choosing A Therapist
Episode 124 In this episode, I delve into the continuation of my exploration on seeking guidance, pivoting from the quest for a spiritual director to the process of choosing a therapist. I reveal key considerations that have ...
April 29, 2024
5 Considerations When Choosing A Spiritual Director
Episode 123 In this in-depth episode, I share my personal experiences and insights on the importance and process of selecting a spiritual director to guide one's spiritual journey. I outline five key considerations that have...
April 22, 2024
Is It Time to Change Your Spiritual Director or Therapist?
Episode 122 This episode covers practical advice for individuals deeply invested in their integrated spiritual and emotional healing journeys. I particularly emphasise the importance of recognising when it might be time to ch...
April 15, 2024
The Contemplative Heart of Interior Integration
Episode 121 In this episode of Becoming Me, I delve into the contemplative heart of interior integration. I talk about the integration of spirituality, psychology, neuroscience, and other fields as essential in the journey of...
April 8, 2024
3 Spiritual Blocks That Stem From Attachment Trauma
Episode 120 In this episode I highlight three common spiritual blocks: the inability to develop a close and intimate relationship with God, the struggle with being still and silent, and the challenges of discernment and decis...
April 1, 2024
Are You Spiritualising Forgiveness?
Episode 119 In this episode, I discuss the concept of spiritualising forgiveness and its implications in faith and daily life. I talk about how the struggles many people often face in integrating love and forgiveness in their...
March 25, 2024
The Essential Role of Self-Care In The Interior Journey
Episode 118 In this episode, I dive deep into the topic of self-care, self-love, and how they relate to spirituality from a Christian perspective. I challenge the common misconception within some Christian circles that self-c...
March 18, 2024
Navigating Healing of Relationships In Dysfunctional Families: A Christian Perspective
Episode 117 In this in-depth discussion, I provide a Christian perspective on the journey of healing from complex trauma within a dysfunctional family setting. Six gentle reminders are shared for those trying to manage relati...
March 4, 2024
Primed For Conflict: The Link Between Our Present & Our Past
Episode 116 In this episode I examine the connection between past emotional trauma and present conflicts in relationships. Aided by three personal stories, I illustrate how past familial conflicts have influenced my own inter...
Feb. 26, 2024
Understanding Enmeshment's Impact On Our Faith & Relationships
Episode 115 In this episode I explore the concept of 'enmeshment', a term used in psychology to describe dysfunctional family systems marked by poor boundaries between family members and thus over-dependence (and co-dependenc...
Feb. 19, 2024
Recovering From People-Pleasing and Insecure Attachment With God
Episode 114 If you're a people-pleaser, chances are good that you also have an insecure attachment with God and that your understanding of "pleasing God" comes from a place of anxiety rather than confidence. This episode disc...
Feb. 12, 2024
Why Exercising Boundaries Feel "Wrong" When You're Healing
Episode 113 When those of us who never had boundaries start learning to exercise them, it can feel really "wrong" to us and this may keep us second guessing if drawing boundaries is the right thing to do. In this episode I re...
Feb. 5, 2024
How Ignatian Examen Helps Heal Abandonment Wounds
Episode 112 In this episode's deep dive, I explain the vital connection between our senses of identity and security in faith, sharing insights drawn from Catholic tradition, modern psychology, and personal experience. I share...
Jan. 29, 2024
3 Grounding Tips For When You Are Overwhelmed
Episode 111 Have you experienced feeling overwhelmed while making the interior journey? In this episode I propose three coping strategies for these difficult periods: the understanding that nothing real changes, realising tha...
Jan. 22, 2024
Why Conviction Without Integration Doesn't Help Us
Episode 110 Conviction alone can’t get you where you want or need to go. When we don’t do the work of interior integration we often end up hiding behind our convictions to feel safe instead of flourishing because we are roote...
Jan. 15, 2024
What Does Interior Integration FEEL Like?
Episode 109 What's the difference that healing and integration makes we get triggered back into old insecurities and anxieties? We often expect that healing will result in the absence of struggles but in reality, the journey...
Jan. 8, 2024
How Learning About Trauma Helped My Spiritual Life
Episode 108 In this episode, I delve into how understanding complex trauma has helped me in my spiritual life. I share how certain challenges I face, such as emotional regulation in stressful environments, couldn't be solved ...
Dec. 7, 2023
Coping with Advent Overwhelm: Trauma Recovery and Faith
Episode 107 Do you feel overwhelmed in Advent and more tense than usual? Does that make you feel guilty all the more because it makes you feel like you're not "doing" Advent well? In this bonus episode, I share my personal ex...