To be able to act from a place of freedom requires that we are securely loved. When we are not securely loved, there will always be that fear of punishment, of being able to give up our need to be perfectly loving. Because often that need comes from a place…
DAY 23: Developing Trust & Secure Attachment in Adulthood How do we begin to develop secure attachment with God and others in adulthood when we are so insecure about our loveableness? In this video I break this question down from the perspective of interior integration and share some practical steps…
What is interior freedom? Freedom is the experience of coming from a deep sense of security in God and in ourselves. Instead of standing on ground that constantly shifts beneath our feet, freedom gives me a sense of being on rock, of living and making decisions from solid ground with…
Are you trying to exercise boundaries but keep feeling like it’s wrong to do so? In this live I talk about 3 reasons why exercising boundaries can feel wrong for those of us who: - Want to love authentically (not just out of duty / fear) - Desire to follow…
DAY 22: When other people project their insecurities on you How can you maintain inner freedom and equilibrium when other people project their issues onto you? In this video I explain the first principles behind a process that allows us to become more anchored in our True Identity which will…
Are we able to catch the wave of grace? No matter how much we want to and how hard we try, we will not be able to act without grace. We need to be able to anticipate it, allow ourselves to wait, and be ready to catch the wave of…
DAY 21 “How do I pace myself on the interior journey when the speed of what comes up (mostly past experiences, childhood memories) is faster than what I can process or unpack?” In this live I offer THREE clear and very practical steps of what to do when the interior…
We were designed and created with limitations. When we over-spiritualise, we accept the half-truth anad fail to honour the whole truth that God did not create us to surpass our humanity on a regular basis, and to not honor the boundaries that He has set within our design. Find out…
DAY 20: Healing Through Delight, Beauty, Rest & Play In my season of deep healing I was led to rediscover how to receive delight, rest, pleasure, rest and be extravagant with beauty without guilt. I never knew until that season how “holiness” and “goodness” and my image of God had…
Do you find yourself over functioning in your attempt to be holy or to be a good disciple? You may have an over-spiritualised notion of discipleship and service! Listen to podcast Episode 81 on 3 ways that spiritualising may be blinding you from living an embodied and holistic life of…
DAY 19: Feeling disconnected with the outside world during healing journey At some point of the interior journey we will feel disconnected with the outside world and this can be scary if we don’t understand why it’s happening or how to respond. In this live I explain why this sense…
When you’re a recovering people-pleaser, the whole concept of living to please God can be a tricky one. It’s easy to attempt to please God from our wound of insecurity, hoping that we will win God’s love by pleasing him. But that would only make us more insecure with God,…
How can we love and lead ourselves when our interior journey or life gets overwhelming? In this video I share THREE things I do/ remind myself of when I feel overwhelmed by the interior journey and/or my life. I hope you find these tips helpful for yourself too! Follow me…
Did you feel emotionally safe growing up? Did you have safe adults around you to hold space for you and your emotions? Many of us don't realise that although we may have been physically safe as children, we did not feel safe. This is because our caregivers may not have…
DAY 18: Loneliness, Singlehood & Marriage Loneliness is a universal experience, regardless of whether you are single or married (or in religious life/ordained)! What’s at the root of our loneliness? How do we build a foundation towards having secure attachment with others and with God? Tune in to this live…
Many of us don't realise of the value our emotions have in helping us be more attuned to ourselves and our needs. Our emotions have the ability to help us make better decisions that help us feel safe. But we must first be able to trust our emotions and ourselves.…
INTEGRATIVE PERSPECTIVE TO PRAYER, ATTACHMENT, COMPLEX TRAUMA In this live I share how the Ignatian Prayer of Examen (Examen of Consciousness) had helped me develop a more securely attached relationship with God. If you’re someone who desires to trust God more but struggle to, or you constantly struggle with anxiety…
DAY 17: Why Becoming Our Own Person Is Required To Mature in Love In order to love authentically, we need to have a healthy sense of who we are as a separate SELF. In this video I talk about why being enmeshed or too detached in our relationships both prevent…
Do have that earned trust in our emotions? Without this trust, we find ourselves having a hard time making prudent and wise decisions for ourselves. Catch Episode 79 of the Becoming Me Podcast and find out more on why it is so important to trust our emotions and what happens…
Day 16: “Doing the Right Thing” vs Being Authentically Loving There’s a world of difference between shutting down our emotions and ignoring our needs to “do the right thing” and being genuinely, authentically loving with our whole being. In this video I explain the distinction and share with very concrete…
Why is it that relationship with ourselves is so important and yet, we don't talk about it enough? Our hunger, that loneliness, that desire to be loved; it is something that we can possibly give ourselves. But first, we must learn how to be at home with ourselves. Find out…
Day 15: How God led me to TRUST him through my BODY Did you know your lack of a good relationship with your own BODY prevents you from being able to TRUST God, Self or others? In this video I share how God led me to reconsider my relationship with…
Are there apects of yourself you find hard to face or look at? What we don't realise is that God dwells where we dare not go to face our brokenness and wounds. Are we more willing to go there, knowing that God has made His home in these places within…
Day 14: Attuning to VS Controlling Emotions We often try to control our emotions in order to “be loving” but by doing so we actually make it harder for us to make authentic connections. In this video I share my experience of the difference between controlling my emotions and attuning…