Videos

March 25, 2024

Let's Talk Self-Care

There's a common belief that self-care falls into two categories: "healthy" and "unhealthy." The former involves discipline and long-term commitment, while the latter is seen as frivolous and indulgent. But here's the thing: making rigid distinctions between these forms of self-care isn't as helpful as we might think. From an…

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March 22, 2024

Acknowledge the Truth, Prioritize Self-Protection

It's crucial not to downplay the reality of harmful relationships. We're called to love our enemies, yes, but that doesn't mean ignoring the toxicity. Recognize that love in such relationships looks vastly different from healthy ones. When interacting with toxic family members, be aware that you're stepping into a potentially…

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March 18, 2024

Embracing Cultural Awareness & Breaking Harmful Norms

Recognizing toxicity and abuse within our families isn't always easy, especially when it's deeply ingrained in our culture. It's often simpler to spot these issues in others' families than in our own. But it's crucial to develop the eyes to see the harm, even if it's normalized. As disciples of…

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March 7, 2024

Navigating the Depths of Relationships and Self-Awarenes

All the theories in the world fall short if they can't weave into the fabric of our relationships, both with ourselves and others. It's disheartening to witness relationships being caught in various conflicts, where all parties are seemingly unable to see beyond the surface issues. Many times, it's not about…

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March 4, 2024

The Cycles of Conflict within our Families and Relationships

Many of us have the shared experience of feeling frustration at finding ourselves in familiar quarrels, wondering why it feels like déjà vu. We're aware of our actions and their impact, but still, the patterns persist. Do you often ask yourself, "Why am I in this same quarrel again?" It…

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March 1, 2024

Pushing others away from God

Have you ever considered that our eagerness to help might unintentionally become obstacles in others' journeys towards God? It's a realization that hit hard - thinking I was bringing others closer to God, only to see damaged relationships, anger, resentment, and hurt. Often, our sincere attempts to help, rooted in…

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Feb. 26, 2024

Struggling with the Messiah Complex

In this episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, I share about my struggle with the Messiah Complex. We all view "laying down our life" through our unique lenses, influenced by upbringing and personal perspectives. Even those guiding us in faith may bring their own interpretations. Layers of distortions exist, both…

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Feb. 24, 2024

How Your Clarity Application Is Processed

n this video I share with you the process I use to discern how to respond to the Clarity applications I receive. By sharing this 'behind-the-scenes' process with you I hope to assure you that your best interests are being looked after and give you a deeper insight into how…

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Feb. 23, 2024

Driven by Love, not Fear

When we lay down our lives and seek to please God from a place of abundance, knowing He delights in us just as we are, a profound transformation occurs. No matter how flawed we may be, God's love is unwavering. In the depth of our existence, He continues to love…

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Feb. 22, 2024

Authentic Growth with a Secure Base

In our journey with God, entering the relationship from an insecure base may hinder us from presenting our true selves before Him. It's crucial to grow in love for God beyond seeking what He can do for us. We must recognize the danger of not being aware of where we…

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Feb. 19, 2024

Embracing the Journey with Humility

One of the foundational principles of the spiritual life is to be where we are and to encounter God exactly where we are. It takes humility, a humility that comes from secure attachment. When we know we are loved for who we are, regardless of our successes or failures, it…

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Feb. 17, 2024

Why and How I use MCODE™ and MBTI® Step II in Clarity

In this video I explain why I chose the MCODE™ and MBTI® Step II instruments for the Clarity Interior Integration Journey and how the methodology is designed so that these personality tests are leveraged to support the interior journey. For the FULL VIDEO go to https://youtu.be/0GEslII3QCQ

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Feb. 17, 2024

Personality Tests & The Interior Journey

In this video I talk about why Personality Tests are limited in their usefulness for their interior journey and yet can become great assets if we know how to address those limitations. I also explain why I chose the MCODE™ and MBTI® Step II instruments for the Clarity Interior Integration…

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Feb. 15, 2024

Navigating Faith with Authenticity

Have you ever encountered someone deeply religious, quoting scriptures and church teachings, yet their presence feels anything but safe? It is possibly a paradox many of us resonate with. Sometimes, the authority others hold can make us question our choices. Faith should be a source of comfort, not fear. It's…

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Feb. 12, 2024

Embracing Individuality and Faith

In the journey of faith, it's not uncommon to grapple with the idea of prioritizing our own happiness. The struggle to differentiate ourselves, recognizing that God desires our individual joy, can be challenging yet profoundly liberating. Each one of us possesses incredible dignity, beauty, and preciousness. We're not designed merely…

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Feb. 9, 2024

Unveiling the Layers of Emotions and Identity

In the journey of healing, there's a profound realization that we were never truly alone, even in the depths of our struggles. Recognizing that God was always present, experiencing our pain alongside us, opens the door to healing and processing deep-seated traumas. For those with abandonment wounds, the longing for…

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Feb. 8, 2024

Nurturing Confidence through Prayer and Presence

In this episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, I share about how the Prayer of the Examen became a guiding light, and how it helped me focus on God's unwavering presence. Building a foundation of safety, allows us cultivate a deep confidence through lived experiences. Knowing that God is with…

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Feb. 6, 2024

About Clarity & Application Process 2024

In this video clip I talk about my signature offer - the Clarity Interior Integration Journey. Applications are now open until 29 February 2024. FIND OUT MORE: https://www.integroformation.com/clarity-info I take only one small cohort of interior pilgrims through this coaching journey each year. If you are beyond the beginnings of…

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Feb. 5, 2024

Unveiling the Layers of Emotions and Identity

What is the interior journey if not for embracing the our emotions, thoughts, and the whispers of our hearts, fearlessly attuning to our consciousness. For in the depth of self-love and acceptance, there's an unwavering foundation that cradles us through it all. For me, this is the foundation of safety…

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Feb. 2, 2024

How to Choose Interior Journey Resources: Part 5

Creating Your Personal Suite of Resources & The Clarity Coaching Journey In Part 5 of this series I talk about creating a personal suite of resources for your interior journey. I share about the various strengths of 1-to-1 vs Group, Free Flow vs Curriculum resources and how a balanced suite…

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Feb. 1, 2024

Navigating Overwhelm

No matter how overwhelming life may seem, there's a profound truth that can anchor our restless hearts. This helps us recognise that the essence of reality remains untouched and nothing real truly changes. We need to embrace our unchanging core amidst life's twists and turns, one step at a time,…

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Jan. 29, 2024

Nothing Real Changes

In the whirlwind of life, sometimes we need to find solace in taking a step back and acknowledging the raw reality that surrounds us. It's easy to get caught up in the illusion of control, thinking we've got it all figured out. As we navigate the highs and lows, the…

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Jan. 25, 2024

Beyond Self-Preservation: Embracing Divine Grace

Do we realise the importance of having a secure and integrated core when it comes to standing up for what we believe in? Conviction without integration is useless. In a world where self-preservation is natural, how do we transcend our own desires? We can only go beyong self-preservation and our…

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Jan. 22, 2024

Fear, Redemption, and Love

What does a stable foundation of love look like? In this episode, I share about being afraid to confront our own flaws and trying to make amends in order to feel safe. There are many complexities of fear and redemption. But we need to live in the knowledge of being…

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