Oct. 20, 2025

When Enmeshment Trauma Becomes Spiritually Abusive

Episode 159 In today's episode, we explore the intersection of enmeshment trauma and spiritual abuse. If you're new to the concept, enmeshment trauma occurs in families that are too close to the point where individual boundaries and self-identity are compromised. This episode delves into the signs and impacts of enmeshment trauma, such as poor boundaries, lack of self-identity, feeling overly responsible for others and constant seeking of approval. I also discuss how these dynamics can ...

Episode 159

In today's episode, we explore the intersection of enmeshment trauma and spiritual abuse. If you're new to the concept, enmeshment trauma occurs in families that are too close to the point where individual boundaries and self-identity are compromised. This episode delves into the signs and impacts of enmeshment trauma, such as poor boundaries, lack of self-identity, feeling overly responsible for others and constant seeking of approval. 

I also discuss how these dynamics can lead to spiritual abuse within both families and faith communities, particularly through the misuse of authority and abuse of conscience. Offering insights and personal experiences, this episode aims to help you recognise and heal from these harmful patterns especially when they are cloaked in beautiful and ‘holy’ language such as ‘accountability’ and ‘fraternal correction’.

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RESOURCES

Holy Hurt: Understanding Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing (Book)

Holy Hurt (Podcast) 

Understanding Enmeshment Trauma

Enmeshment in Family: Breaking Free from Unhealthy Closeness 
 

CHAPTER MARKERS

00:00 Introduction
00:11 Understanding Enmeshment Trauma
02:33 Healthy Intimacy vs. Enmeshment
05:27 Spiritual and Religious Trauma
09:56 What is Enmeshment Trauma?
13:01 Personal Experiences and Cultural Context
13:47 Signs of Enmeshment Trauma
19:09 Impact of Enmeshment Trauma
25:54 Enmeshment in Faith Communities
32:19 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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00:00 - Introduction

00:11 - Understanding Enmeshment Trauma

02:33 - Healthy Intimacy vs. Enmeshment

05:27 - Spiritual and Religious Trauma

09:56 - What is Enmeshment Trauma?

13:01 - Personal Experiences and Cultural Context

13:47 - Signs of Enmeshment Trauma

19:09 - Impact of Enmeshment Trauma

25:54 - Enmeshment in Faith Communities

32:19 - Conclusion and Final Thoughts